My dreams, desires, hopes and expectations soar into the heavens. Something deep inside of me pushes to think and grow beyond my circumstances. Regardless of education, experience and obstacles, my dream must survive and I will do almost anything to achieve the goals I set for accomplishing my objectives. Somewhere inside of me I know I will live forever!
I have heard these words over and over from myself and others all of my life. But the reality is that most of the outcomes over the years have fallen short of these words. Everything we read and are taught, tell us to dream big or achieve through thinking big or have faith in your internal power to excel beyond your dreams. Most of this advice is aimed at material wealth, power, and acclaim with stature in society as being important or “actualized” , envied by others and respected by all.
Failure to Launch
When the reality of having not achieved these lofty goals sets in, we react in many ways to the disappointment of our failure to launch.
The distance between our dreams and expectations compared with the actuality of where we are in real time to what we expected, can be measured and looked at as a fall from our lofty ideals and thus a failure to launch into success. If we perceive life has failed in allowing us to meet our goals, quite often we blame others, circumstances or a whole bunch of other reasons for this failure. We can get discouraged, angry, irritable, cynical and eventually sour on life, thus assuring that our dream of success will never be reached. We fulfill our destiny of failure and sometimes never try again to dream of success. This posture can lead to very destructive behaviors.
We are not prepared to Fail
I have never seen a college class or heard of a seminar titled “How to Fail 101”. We are not programed to fail. All of our media, education, family and business associates tell us that failure is dishonorable, a sign of weakness and a terrible thing to do. It is no wonder that when we do fail we are left alone or in obscurity to face the consequences by ourselves. We are welcomed back into our circles of expectation if we arise from the ashes and like the Phoenix we return from those ashes to make a spectacular comeback. Only then we are honored for our bravery and welcomed as a hero by our peers.
The wrong set-up of your dream
The problem with dreaming big is not the dream itself. Dreaming big is a "God thing" and a product of our nature to create. We humans have been given great power by our creator. After all, we were made in His image. We have astounding creations around us in every direction demonstrating our power to make things, often out of thin-air. What are our limitation? There aren’t any! Thus we dream big as a human race and we accomplish the impossible.
Failure Accompanies All Dreams
Does every individual dream end in accomplishment or fulfillment of that dream? Certainly not. The common outcome of all dreams is that many failures occur with each attempt at implementing the plan to reach our dreams. Sometimes several hundred attempts are made before any success happens. More often than not, the original dream an individual has is never accomplished in the manner in which the dream was conceived. Thomas Edison would have never discovered how to make light bulbs unless he continued to “adjust” his approach after each of his hundreds of previous failures. I heard it once said that “success is losing 9 of of 10 times”.
What is “failure to accomplish your dream”?
Failure to realize the accomplishing of your dream is simply a measurement calculation that you imposed upon yourself that measures the distance between the dream and the completion of realizing that dream within a certain time given within the equation. In other words, you missed your mark and blew your accomplishment according to your vision. But, to realize that dream means to adjust the dream as you go, and what better adjustment advice and motivation is there in “failure”?
It should be of interest to know that no such imposed test of this kind exists in the non-human animal world. Every animal of every kind is driven by instinct to eat, rest, reproduce and make no evaluation whatsoever of their progress of life. They live in the moment, their future is driven by their instinct to survive and their end of life experience is devoid of remorse, regardless of their pain and suffering. They never question their very existence. They just live.
When we humans plant goals with expectations on ourselves, we have put ourself above the animal world and have stepped into a spiritual world where the power of creation and the creator himself lives. If we power our creative ability within ourselves and say to ourself that there are no limitations or accountabilities other than unto ourself, then we have become the god of our creations. If it were true that we had this ability or right, than their would never be any failure to anything we put our mind to and initiate. We know this to be untrue by the fact that our attempt at creation is riddled with failure forcing us to move from trial to trial while eliminating the failures along the way. A truly successful person has come to a place in their life and realizes that failure is a part of the success equation. Each failure means that the vision of our human endeavor will not be reached until all of the imperfections are moved or worked around. Our gift for creating something wonderful also comes with the limitations of obstacles thrown at us through the world of rules, laws of nature, or the acts of others to defeat our creativity.
Only the creator himself, God can make a perfect creation in His first and only attempt. There are no second attempts or failures in anything he creates. Wouldn’t you think that being His partner or collaborating with Him might be an assurance of success? ……SO…..
We go it alone singing, “I’ll do it my way”...............more