10 knockout factors that prevent you from functioning
1. The death of a spouse or child within the past 12 months
2. Divorce within the past 12 months
3. Poor health requiring bed rest or Physician interaction
4. Sex, alcohol or drug addiction
5. Mental or nervous breakdown in the past 12 months
6. Death of a beloved pet in the past 6 months
7. Failure of a business in the past 12 months
8. Bankruptcy in the past 12 months
9. Unemployment for more than 3 months
10. Foreclosure or eviction from residence within the past 12 months
These 10 knock out factors are not all inclusive of disasters that can hit a grieving person, but represent the most common.
If you have one or two of these factors, you can still function with a great deal of support.
If you have three or more of these factors, there is little chance you can overcome grief during this period. Do little; let some time go by where you do nothing.
The following may appear in your life if you have 3 or more knock out factors:
Not enough energy to get through a day of work.
Lack of focus for even the easiest of tasks, like driving, shopping, cooking and eating
Severe depression with thoughts of suicide
Unable to function at work
Restless day and night
Erratic or no sex drive
How to overcome grief during the “knock-out factor” period of time.
Overcoming grief during the “knock-out factor” period is not the goal. Neither is it the goal to simply let time go by and the wounds will heal themselves. The great lie that many believe is, “time heals all wounds.” If this were true, why are millions of people locked into grieving symptoms and behaviors 10, 20, 30 or more years after a grief event? As mentioned, you will need to allow for the “shock” that a “grief event” brings to your mind and body, but that is only temporary. Long term grieving (one or more years) debilitates your present and engulfs your future and drags you into the past where you might remain for the remainder of your life.